Adultery Date Site, Just Another Sick Idea

Plastered all over the Paris subway system are huge purplish red advertisements for an international internet dating site for extraconjugal affairs.  With a photo of an apple, bitten into, the major pitch lines are the bold and audacious proclamations ” Être fidèle à deux hommes, c’est être deux fois plus fidèle”. That translates out that women who are “faithful” to two men are therefore two times more “faithful”. Wow, what a twist on words here!

This internet dating site is persuasively said to be designed by and for married women to spice up their marriage.  But, this just does not pan out to be true.  Not surprising this offensive idea was cooked up and created by two Frenchies, brothers no least!  They claim they are just cashing in on married partners that already comprise a certain percentage of internet dating sites.  Apparently the bucks and euros are rolling in as advertising in the Paris metro does not come cheap!                                                                                                                           This seemingly  DSK inspired adventure goes on ludicrously glorify infidelity and make it seen as normal as apple pie.   Basically the theme is that infidelity can not only “pimenter” or add spice to  your marriage, but even save it from boredom.    According to their website,  they invite men to have a little fling or a “naughty thrill” with married women.  Men are encouraged to cultivate a “secret garden”.  I found it laughable that they outlandishly mention how “integrity” is the  foundation for their work, yet the major theme is encouraging women to be dishonest in their marriages. Women are encouraged to be honest about their marital status, but yet apparently there is no comprehension that cheating on a spouse reeks from  lack of integrity!

Women can sign up for free, but men have to pay for the privileges of searching out these delectably dishonest women. Women do not show their photos until they desire to, and only when they feel their pursuer has gained their “trust” . Boy, I see now how this might pump up the volume of paranoia in some men convinced that their wives are hiding behind these anonymous profiles.

Reportedly  68% of married women registered on their site, felt an affair was the “secret” to their  marriages longevity.    Oh really? I don’t think a lot of men would agree.    Men may have sexual fantasies of a “menage a trois” with another women, but when the table is turned, it can messy in more ways than one.

The site goes on to debunk the negative “myths” of infidelity, seeing adultery as a panacea of sorts for all ills of a couple.  I just loved their declaration that extraconjugal affairs will leave you fulfilled and you can bring home your “contagious happiness”.  How strange that in 28 years of practice I have never met a betrayed spouse come in filled with such contagious happiness!  Explosive anger, hair pulling, spitting, screaming, hitting, and  threats of death,  are what I have usually seen and the list goes on!

I am no prude and if a couple are both reciprocal to an open marriage, so be it, except that open marriage or couples rarely works out.  Human  beings are by nature possessive and jealous, which eventually interplays into these sort of arrangements.   There are plenty of “swinging”clubs in Paris, called “échangistes”, so obviously there is a market.

Deception, though is another game and dangerous at best.  Promoting it under the guise of   offering multiple benefits to a marriage is just outrageously misleading and false.  Those little secret gardens are more of a minefield, just waiting to be exploded.